Monday, June 29, 2009

I need an intervention....


So, I am 31 years old and single. This is not because I have not tried to find a husband. Not by a long shot. So, I have decided that I need some help. So, I need a dating therapist.... which is where all of my readers come in.

I know that I have faults, but don't we all? I have felt for a long time that my lack of dating has all been because of my size. Guys don't dig fat chicks, I know this. I do believe that there has to be some guys that are above this. That could see me for who I am and not just what I look like. Yet, this hope has dwindled over the years of rejection.....
So, this is where I need your advice... How do I find a husband? I have asked plenty of guys out, no lets rephrase this, I have akwardly (cause thats my style) thrown myself at some guys..... I have played hard to get ( and mostly just gotten ignored).
I would really like the advice of my guy readers, if there are any. What do I do? How can I just get a date, because honestly, I do not date. Please... help the dateless!
P

4 comments:

Tammy Ann said...

Peggy, you are truly Pegalicious! You look beatiful...You are beatiful! It's not just you, honey. My good friend weighs 110 lbs and is in the same boat because she has a child. It's differences! Do you think I dated much pre-Dustin? LOL! I believe if you have any unique circumstances, Utah dating culture can be brutal...

KEEP BEING YOU!

Annie M. said...

Sometimes I think it seems really random who finds their soul mate and who doesn't. I know so many women who are beautiful, successful, funny, spiritual, great people but for one reason or another just haven't found "the one" (regardless of their size, by the way!). I don't think that I have done anything right per se and my single friends have done anything wrong in the seeking of a husband- sometimes it just happens for some people and just doesn't happen for others. For me, it was when I stopped trying that Joel and I found each other- ironically enough. Prayers aren't always answered on our time frame, that's the thing that is so hard. I remember when I first moved to Colorado my single's ward was FULL of women like I described above yet was severely lacking in men who displayed the same potential. Any guy who was semi-normal and active in the church- didn't even have to have a job or an education- had HAREMS of girls flocking after them. Sorry, but I refused to be one of a harem. There are lots of things you can try to do to increase your potential of finding your husband- going to ward activities, joining online dating sites, relocating, etc. But the truth of the matter is that even if you're doing everything you can do to put yourself out there, it will happen in the Lord's own due time. Hang in there- I know it's hard and lonely- but try to make the best out of your life whether you're single or married. If you're happy with who you are and where you are in life, that shines through.

Jennifer said...

I'm sorry to say that there is no magical formula on how to get a guy. My best advice honestly is to just live your life and be happy. Work on being your best self in every aspect because there are no guarantees in life and if you don't meet the one at least you will be happy with who you are. I know that life can be lonely when we long to share it with that special someone. Hang in there and know that you are not alone. I have a good friend who is 36, cute, thin, successful, fun to be with etc...and she isn't married either. She is happy though which is what counts. She lives life to the fullest and has good friends. I have a couple of other friends who have just barely gotten married and they are 35. So like I said, you are not alone. I hope you can be happy no matter how things work out.

btw, I love the new look of your blog.:)

Suzie said...

I completely agree with what everyone has already said. You, Ms. Peggy are absolutely wonderful! Heavenly Father has great things in store for you. You have been such a great friend to me & my boys. You be you, and "Mr. Right" will find you all in due time. It has nothing to do with being skinny, blond or any of that stuff. It has to do with a bigger plan that unfortunately we can't completely understand right now. Loves to you!